I Don’t Plan on Having Kids

When I was an older  teenager, and once I got married, I was occasionally asked how many kids I planned to have. “None!”  I would quickly reply. While I truly enjoyed teaching kids, I also really enjoyed being able to send them home.  In my eyes, my life was perfect; a great husband, time with kids, and time to myself.  God – and some ladies in my church – decided I needed to rethink my decision. I had been informed that I could not have children without medical intervention, so, imagine my surprise when all of a sudden I was pregnant. Three children later, I can’t imagine my life without them. (Well, maybe I can: less laundry, fewer dishes, no homework to help with, less stuff left all over the house…)But, you know what I mean, right? I hang out with my kids, and do life with them; and one of my greatest joys is seeing them mature intellectually, physically, socially, emotionally, and especially spiritually. It’s so neat to watch them discover and develop their spiritual gifts and grow in their knowledge and love for God. Which recently got me thinking.

When I share that I never planned on having kids with people, there are often a number of women who just can’t understand why.  They can’t quite wrap their mind around the idea that a Christian woman would purposely choose to not have kids.  I mean, we’re commanded to “be fruitful and multiply” right? And isn’t even a little unnatural for a woman to not desire to have children? Isn’t that desire wired right into her DNA?  I wonder if God thinks the same thing when He looks at many believers: He just can’t fathom why they would decide not to have kids – spiritual ones. I mean we’re commanded to “make disciples”, right? And isn’t the desire to share the good news of the gospel is wired into our spiritual DNA? Just like I would have missed sharing life with my kids and watching them mature by deciding to not have them, many Christians are missing out on sharing in the joys brought by spiritual children.  “I have no grater joy than to hear that my children are walking in the truth.” (3 John 4) So… I guess I’m getting a little personal today: Do you plan to have spiritual kids? How many?

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  1. Wow, what a great illustration – sorry I’m just now seeing this, I’m SO behind on ‘internet things’ including your blog, obviously! 🙂 I know I’ve talked with you before about this, I think it was when I was expecting Zachary, and I am one of the ones who had wanted kids forever & always ‘just’ wanted to be a mom, etc. so this illustration really hit home with me!!! I wanted to tell you, too, that your presentation yesterday morning was amazing – it was SO good – I loved how you so openly shared your heart through your own personal thoughts in your journal & I think it was just what I & the other ladies there needed to hear!

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